Healing through Writing with Rupi Kaur

I learned that although the world can completely strip you of love, it does not mean that you will not be able to love again. It means that you’ll be able to love even greater.

(The words below are the script from 2:23-5:07)

…Hey, I wrote this. And I’m kind of really scared to post this online.

What do you think about it?

And they would be like: Post it. Especially because you’re afraid. Especially because you’ve had that fear. Especially because you know it will make people feel uncomfortable. You know that you feel it, and you’re afraid of it, so people need to hear that. That thing, the suffering in others and placing my hand on it, and being like, how can I make sense of this? 

How can I put words to this?

How can I put a word to a feeling that, you know, is too deep to even be put into words. Can I do it justice? Will I do it justice?

There was a moment. A few months within this year that I was in so much pain, that I was going through so much grief that I could not write at all. I felt like that form of suffering had stolen that form of expression from me. It was very hard because writing was the tool that I used to heal, but suddenly, it was like writing was cutting me open and it was making me explore things that I didn’t want to explore, and that I wasn’t ready to explore. I just kind of wanted to run away from… I stopped writing about those topics altogether. I wanted to write about what was hurting me most. I was hurt that I couldn’t. I was hurt that I couldn’t use my tool of healing to heal for the first time…

But now looking back I’m totally okay with it.

If writing was so easy, and if it continued to be easy, it meant that I wasn’t growing. 

Now, in time, I know that I’ll be able to express my fears and I’ll be able to express them, and when the time comes, I will write about them. And I will express them, and I will share them with the world.

I learned that although the world can take everything from you.

I learned that although the world can completely strip you of love, it does not mean that you will not be able to love again. It means that you’ll be able to love even greater.

I learned that I am not a destructive force even though a lot of destruction has happened to me. 

I learned that I am able to give everything.

I learned that I’m able to lose everything- and still live.

[The words above are the words spoken by Rupi Kaur in her YouTube video: milk and honey: sitting down with rupi kaur. Rupi Kaur is the author of milk and honey, and she is a Sikh woman from Canada.

I fell in love with the way her written word gave me comfort about my own life experiences. I bought her book right away through Kindle and it took me 2 hours to go through the whole masterpiece. She is now one of my favorite poets of all time, along with Warsan Shire.

There were many moments in 2016 where I feel like I could not write because it was cutting open a wound that was almost healed after a decade. But I faced the pain head on because I knew that overcoming it was bigger than myself. It feels incredible to have found a colored woman express the pain so beautifully. I do not know her personally but she shared her deepest and darkest moments with her audience despite the vulnerability. Thank you, Rupi, from the bottom of my heart.]

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